When you try to meet women in bars or clubs or even through online dating services, being charming and cool is a huge aspect of making sure you have a successful conversation that will hopefully lead up to a hookup. This can be an extremely difficult and nerve wracking aspect of dating if you are not the type of guy who finds it easy to be confident and charming. Being charming is still an undeniably important trait for dating, so learning how to fake it until you make it is of utmost importance. If you follow some simple steps, you should be able to act charming even if you actually aren’t.
Be Able to Poke Fun at Yourself
If you are naturally shy, chances are you are going to stumble or stutter or do something else that would normally embarrass you and make you give up on talking to women at all. However, if you learn how to be able to laugh at your own mistakes instead of internalizing them and becoming anxious about them, you can come off as charming and real. Women love guys who are able to laugh at their own mistakes, since it shows they aren’t too serious or brooding. If you can poke fun at your own expense and make your mistakes seem funny instead of embarrassing, chances are you will make her much more interested in you than if you take every misstep too seriously.
Pay Close Attention to the Woman You’re Talking to
If you pay attention to the woman you are talking to and make sure to include her in your conversation as much as possible, you will make her feel special and worthy of attention. This is a huge part of being charming. Compliment her on her looks specifically instead of using vague pickup lines. Comment on the color of her eyes and her hair, comment on her style of dress, and admire her makeup. Express interest in her hobbies. As long as you make sure to tailor your comments specifically to the woman you are talking to, you will come off as being very charming and she will be extremely taken in by your attitude. Don’t let women overwhelm you with their presence, but do focus on them specifically.
A huge part of being charming is that you need to be positive. As soon as you start to be negative about yourself, her, other people, or events in general, you stop being perceived as charming. Charming guys have a positive outlook on life. The more positive you are about everything, the more a woman will be attracted to you. This is not the time to be dark, mysterious, and brooding. Show her that you love life and you can let loose and have fun. Chances are that she will find you charming for having a positive outlook and she will want to get to know you better so that she can have fun with you.