Many men want to runaway when they find out that the woman they’re interest in is a feminist. However, just because a woman is a feminist does not mean that she automatically hates men and everything that they stand for. If you aren’t familiar with modern feminist, you may imagine angry women who think that everything wrong in the world is due to men. While it is true that some feminists still feel this way, most modern feminists simply want rights to be equal for everyone.
Get Your Traditional Values Out of Here
One of the quickest ways to offend a modern feminist is by showing her that you still prefer traditional roles. If you’re just trying to get laid, you should definitely keep your mouth shut about where you think a woman’s place is. If she says something you don’t agree with, simply nod you head and let her keep talking. Also, you will need to keep in mind that just because she is a feminist doesn’t mean you have to abandon all of your manners or your upbringing. If you think because she’s a feminist that it isn’t necessary for you to hold the door open for her or pull out her chair, think again. While you don’t have to do either of these things, you also don’t have to stop doing them just because she’s a feminist. Even feminist enjoy chivalry. Impress her by showing you can still keep a few of your traditional values.
Make sure you don’t try to control the dates that the two of you go on. For instance, don’t constantly try to surprise her with where you’re taking her. Get her opinion on where the two of you should go. Ask her if she would like to meet you there, or ask her if she would like to drive. Don’t think of it as her being in control, think of it as her working so that you can relax.
Watch Your Jokes and Stereotypes
You may be used to certain stereotypes, or making jokes around certain women who take no offense to them. However, with modern feminist, they will be quick to call you out on something that you may have thought was harmless. You need to be extremely careful with your sense of humor when dating a modern feminist. She may look just like any other woman you’ve dated, but her mannerisms may be entirely different. If you’re unsure if something you will say will upset her, just don’t say it. If you do and she calls you out, make sure you apologize and understand why you’re apologizing. A modern feminist will drill you on why you should be sorry, so don’t apologize just to shut her up. It won’t work.
Modern feminists aren’t difficult to date, but they can be hard to please if you are a man who is set in your ways. If a woman tells you that she is a feminist, find out more about who she is and what she stands for before agreeing to date her.