One of the most difficult issues to overcome in a new relationship is the difference in interests. You love hockey and she hates it, she loves live theatre and you’d rather do anything else than be subject to it. If you’re both genuinely interested in each other, however, you’ll realize that your differing opinions on certain subjects really aren’t that big of a deal. If you want your relationship with her to move forward, you might consider relenting your stance on some issues, like the aforementioned live theatre. It might seem difficult, but trust us, if you want to move forward you’ll both need to make some changes.
Appreciation Through Slow Exposure
The fact of the matter is that a lot of time we learn to like things after we’ve been exposed to them for an extended period of time. Have you ever heard a song on the radio that you initially hated, but after months of listening to it you gradually grow to like it? It’s the same kind of concept. You might hate the fact that she loves TV shows like NCIS but if you sit down and make the effort to watch with her, over time you might even find that you start to enjoy certain elements. And even if you still don’t like it, you’ve made the effort and shown her that you’re willing to try.
Another way you can learn to like what she loves is to find comparisons between interests. For example, you’re a hockey nut and anything involving skates and a puck is better than good in your books. She might favour curling over hockey. Granted, hockey and curling are two very different sports, but they both have some key things in common. Strategy and technique are both huge factors in either sport. If you can appreciate them in one sport you can learn to appreciate them in the other. If you can find comparisons like those in your individual interests it can make it easier for you to pinpoint things you enjoy.
Learn to Like by Doing
Maybe she’s an equestrian and grew up riding horses. Maybe you think horses are 900 pounds of dangerous animal. What you need to do in this situation is just give it a try. Look, if she likes you, she’s not going to throw you into a life-threatening situation. So suck it up and give horseback riding a try. This way you’ll get to see her involved in doing something she really loves, which will let you see a different aspect of her. In turn, you’ll be showing her that you’re willing to try new things just to learn more about her. This applies to any interest, not just horseback riding. You’ll never know if you like it if you don’t give it a try.
Make it a Game
Share your interests with each other by making it a game. Schedule one date doing things she likes and the next doing something you want to do. This can be a fun way of exposing each other to different things as well as a way to bond over new experiences.