While online dating isn’t rocket science, it does require a certain technique in order for things to go well. Presenting yourself online can have the same consequences as how you present yourself in real life. This means that if you present a douchebag online persona, you’re likely going to wind up attracting only the wrong kind of women or no women at all. In order to improve your chances of dating successfully online, there are a number of tactics you can adopt will make women regard you as just the kind of guy they’re looking for.
Be Self-Assured Without Being Arrogant
It’s all too tempting, when filling out your online dating profile, to list all your accomplishments and positive attributes in great detail. But that’s not what your profile is for. Your profile is meant to provide women with a short, to the point list of facts about you and your life. It’s also meant to get them interested in knowing more about you. List the things you think are most important about yourself and leave out the little, inconsequential details. There will be time enough for you to share those bits about yourself later when you’re both more familiar with each other.
We’re not saying you need to order her around or tell you what you want when you want it. We are saying that most women appreciate a man who’s direct. For example, if you want to keep talking to her, tell her that. Don’t beat around the bush because you’re not sure if she’ll reciprocate. At this point you won’t have much to lose, so telling her straight away is in your best interests. If she wants to keep talking it’s good news, but if she’s not you’ll be free to pursue other women, which means you won’t have wasted any time.
There’s a fine line between being inquisitive and being downright creepy. What you want to do is show her that you’re interested in what she’s willing to tell you or show you. It’s perfectly normal to have questions about what she does for work or for fun and to want to know more about her past. It’s not normal to demand her measurements right away, or to stalk her on social media and compile a list of questions based on what you’ve found to talk to her about later. A woman will be flattered if you want to know more about her. If you’ve already gone ahead and learned all those things on your own, she’s going to be frightened.
Respect online is just as important as it is offline. If you want a woman to seriously consider entering into a relationship with you, you’ll need to respect her as a person. So don’t push her for nude photos or webcam chats or anything else like that until she’s ready. Just because you’re interacting online it doesn’t give you a license to act like a douche. In fact, given the nature of online dating, you’re already working with a pre-existing bias that most men on the Internet are jerks. So be respectful and be thoughtful and you’ll improve your chances considerably.