Sometimes you start dating a woman with no real intention of developing feelings for her. However, one day you may notice that somewhere down the line that you’ve actually developed feelings for her. This is fine if she is onboard with being in a relationship and also has feelings for you as well. However, many times a man may fall for a woman who only wants to date and doesn’t want anything more serious or exclusive than that. This can be stressful for many men and you may wonder what to do in this type of situation. Luckily, you may be able to get yourself together and to handle things without much issue if you recognize your feelings early on.
Find Out If She Wants to Date You
Before you start blurting out your feelings, you should find out if she has feelings for you. Some women may not tell you that they have feelings for you in fear of scaring you away. If you don’t want to ask her outright, you can give her various what-if scenarios and gauge her responses to see if she really does have feelings for you. For example, you can ask her how she thinks the two of you would be in a serious relationship. You can also as her questions about yourself to see if she’s been paying attention to any the discussions that the two of you may have had in the past. If she seems like she can answer every question you ask her, she may be harboring feelings for you and you’ll be able to get the ball rolling. If she doesn’t seem to know much about you, or if she doesn’t seem to care, you will have to start thinking about other alternatives.
When you find out that she doesn’t want to date you exclusively, you should remind yourself that the two of you weren’t supposed to become serious in the first place. Try thinking about things she does that you don’t like, or try going out on a date with a few other women to get your mind off her. You may even have to stop dating her altogether if you feel like your feelings for her are too strong.
Bite the Bullet
Take a deep breath and tell her how you feel. Be open and honest about your feelings for her. Try to explain to her why dating you would be a good idea. If she’s onboard with the idea, consider yourself in a relationship. If not, do not beg her or demand that she explain why she doesn’t want to date you exclusively. Don’t give her an ultimatum and don’t make her feel pressured. If you do, she’ll leave and you’ll never hear from her again.
Confessing your feelings is tough, but even if she doesn’t want you in the same manner as you want her, you’ll eventually be able to move on. Try to think about all the reasons why the two of you wouldn’t have worked. Find her flaws and blow them up until you’ve convinced yourself that she would have made an awful girlfriend.