If you’ve been trying and trying to flirt and haven’t had any success, the issue might be as simple as how you’re presenting yourself. Women are picky with the guys they’ll be dating, so don’t be surprised if you get snubbed for another guy quite a few times before you meet the right one. While patience is a virtue, though, there’s no shame in speeding up the process a bit. Put yourself on the fast track to success by following these three simple steps to improving your posture, and remember that it only takes two weeks of doing a behavior to make it a habit.
Lose the Slouch
Having a slouched back and shoulders makes you seem passive and forgettable, as well as insecure. A woman who’s looking for a man doesn’t have any time for a guy who’s too vulnerable, so you’re likely to get passed by for someone on the more macho side. Even if it’s more comfortable to slouch down in your seat, make the effort to sit up straight. It makes you seem confident and respectable, and more women are going to flock to you. They’ll see you as successful and a real go-getter, so despite your personality you’ll already have an in with the ladies. Also be sure to stand up straight when you’re walking around. Not only does it improve your swagger, but it actually is much better for your bones in general.
You’re probably thinking of a superhero pose, and it’s actually pretty similar. Women love a man who’s going to be a hero to them, so it’s your job to come off as a knight in shining armor right from the get-go. Be sure to sit and stand with your legs apart and feet about shoulder length apart. Pairing this up with your straight back will make you seem like you dominate the whole area, and it’ll get women staring every time. Standing with your feet together and your arms crossed makes you seem self-conscious and unapproachable, or more rather like you don’t want to be approached. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that women want to go after some guy who’s brooding in the corner of the bar. You need to be the kind of guy who reaches out and takes what he wants.
Watch the Hands
Most guys make the mistake of thinking that women don’t notice body language on anyone but themselves, but that’s not the case at all. It gets pretty specific, but most women say that they pay a lot of attention to a man’s hands when they’re getting to know them. What you say with your hands alone can tell her a lot, so you have to be careful. Don’t keep them stiff at your sides the whole time or you’ll seem standoffish and cold, but if you’re too animated then you’ll just seem insincere. The goal is to find the perfect balance between calm and enthusiastic so that she can tell you care about the conversation, but you don’t look like a maniac doing it.