Whether or not you want to admit it, the way you present yourself to women is important. You might want to stick it to the man and be who you want to be and say screw the rest, but that doesn’t work out too well in the dating scene. Checking your attitude at the door is important, but you should also check any bad habits that you might have as well. These might be putting women off hitting you up, and these three are the top ones to steer clear of that just drive the ladies crazy.
You might be a nervous person. You might be the kind of guy who’s always picking at something, but the hard truth is that ladies aren’t into that. If you need to get that out of your system before you go out, then go ahead. To be honest, trimming your nails down before hitting the bar every night might be a good plan so that you aren’t messing with them. Bitten, ragged nails tell her that you’re inherently anxious and that you don’t take care of yourself. You don’t want her to think that you’re some kind of dirty hobo, do you? Make sure to keep your nails clean and filed, and you’re guaranteed to see the difference. There’s nothing more crippling than the look of scrutiny that you get from a woman as she watches you pick and bite at your nails again and again.
Sorry, but the bad boy look is out of style. With the rise of that whole “surgeon general warning” thing, the idea of smoking kind of started losing its appeal. Women want to be surrounded in a cloud of your smoke just about as much as you’d enjoy being suffocated by her perfume, so keep it to yourself. If you do smoke, don’t subject her to it. It just makes you seem like an insensitive jerk that cares more about getting his fix than protecting her lungs. Also be sure to smoke outside so the smell doesn’t stay on your clothes, and chew some gum so it doesn’t taste like she’s kissing an ashtray. It’s not that she minds if you smoke, it’s that she minds if you subject her to it.
We’re not saying that you can’t let out the occasional “shit” or “damn” every now and then, but that sailor mouth has got to go. If you wouldn’t kiss your mother with it, then you shouldn’t kiss your girlfriend with it, either. Whether or not you curse like crazy is beside the point. She has all the time in the world to figure out that you have a filthy mouth, so don’t force her to deal with that little flaw right from the get-go. Try to keep it clean and be polite, at least at first. You might always be surprised and find out that she has an even worse potty mouth than you. The sad truth, though, is that a lot of women are put off by a man who curses too much.